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What do your family and friends think of the time you spend on TORn?
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Poll: What do your family and friends think of the time you spend on TORn?
They totally support my geekdom and even encourage it!
They tolerate my geekdom, but don't encourage it.
They have no clue about my geekdom.
They roll their eyes a lot, and pat me on the head.
Hey, TORn *is* my family and friends!
View Results (58 votes)

AlassŽa Eruvande

Mar 6 2007, 5:39pm

Post #1 of 34 (1532 views)
What do your family and friends think of the time you spend on TORn? Can't Post

I'd have to go with the second option. They know I'm a geek, but try not to encourage it too much, or I'm liable to go into the geneology of various hobbits or elves.

What about you?


Mar 6 2007, 9:46pm

Post #2 of 34 (1059 views)
It's tolerated, but not always "well." [In reply to] Can't Post

Mr. Losse generally understands that this is just something I have to do, but it doesn't always thrill him. He just can't get over how geeky I can really be, even after 22 years. I admit it can be a little frightening for the uninitiated, but that's okay with me.

Some of my extended family might fall into the "pat my head" category. They just think I'm a little off and leave it at that. It doesn't seem to be hurting anyone so they let me have my "TORn World."


Mar 6 2007, 11:08pm

Post #3 of 34 (1047 views)
They know about it [In reply to] Can't Post

They totally don't get it, and in fact there are still moments of blank terror on my sister's face when I say something about meeting up with people I've met *gasp* online. (Though now she's met dernwyn & daughter, she has a better feel for the surprising lack of axe murderers around here.) The general feeling from that quarter is still vaguely disapproving, but then that may be my perception of what Other AE said: a desire not to encourage an unhealthy level of fascination with LotR. Silly people.

My trip to Ro & NZ's wedding - particularly when Lottie forgot to tell me my mother called, which meant I didn't call my mother till I was waiting for the plane home, two days later - took a few years off a couple of lives. Oops.

Grey Havens

Mar 7 2007, 5:32am

Post #4 of 34 (1016 views)
There's no patting of the head... [In reply to] Can't Post

... but there's definitely eye-rolling and some other verbal responses which are not fit for a family board.


Mar 7 2007, 7:41am

Post #5 of 34 (1031 views)
Ah....support. [In reply to] Can't Post

Seeing as my four siblings are the ones that introduced me to Tolkien, and that we convinced our mom to read LOTR when I was in high school, before we would even have dreamed of a PJ extravaganza, I'd say that I'm fairly well supported! So, yes, there are many "geeks" around me. I have vague memories of my brother's friend wearing a
"Hobbit" t-shirt when I was quite small. Would have been around '82-'83 or so. Anyway, number one for me, as far as the poll goes.

The Shire

Mar 7 2007, 8:22am

Post #6 of 34 (1020 views)
They Have NO CLUE at all.... [In reply to] Can't Post

Only my younger sister could understand a little.
But whenever she saw me sinking in the world of TORn, all I heard was "GEEK...."

Tol Eressea

Mar 7 2007, 3:30pm

Post #7 of 34 (1008 views)
Once again, one answer isn't enough [In reply to] Can't Post

My husband is usually behind me reading over my shoulder when I am on TORN. My children and my sister and her family just accept that I am strange and let it go at that. After all, my children have had all their lives with me being like this, and since our parents died and it is just the two of us, I would have to be A LOT stranger before my sister would comment.


Mar 7 2007, 3:41pm

Post #8 of 34 (1017 views)
like you [In reply to] Can't Post

My dad has read LOTR twice and liked the movies a lot, but my mother couldn't get past the second chapter and only saw the movies because everyone else was and she figured she'd better. My younger brother is almost as much of a LOTR geek as me, as is one niece. Everyone else is polite but changes the subject as soon as they can. Although my sister-in-law has bought me most of HOME over the years as Christmas presents.

The Shire

Mar 7 2007, 3:50pm

Post #9 of 34 (980 views)
I only have younger sister with me... [In reply to] Can't Post

My father only loves the movie but did not have neought patient to finish the book...

Idril Celebrindal
Tol Eressea

Mar 7 2007, 5:58pm

Post #10 of 34 (1043 views)
It varies! [In reply to] Can't Post

My husband totally gets the message board thing. He hangs out at The Miniatures Page (TMP for short), an online forum for miniature wargaming and military history. We often trade TMP and TORN stories. The funny thing is that he's also a Tolkien fan and I'm also interested in gaming and history, so we could have easily ended up at the other's forum.

My kids don't really pay attention to my online activities. I may introduce my older son to TORN, though. I think he'd like it.

My parents have no idea that such things as message boards exist, but they're not big computer users.

My siblings' attitudes vary from understanding to amused tolerance.

Most of my friends are message board users themselves and understand their appeal.


Mar 7 2007, 7:55pm

Post #11 of 34 (1015 views)
both option 1 and 5, but 1 is my vote.... [In reply to] Can't Post

I mean, my father doesnt understand the TORN site and nor does my mom...but they understand my need to share all things Tolkien with fellow 'sibs.



Mar 7 2007, 7:58pm

Post #12 of 34 (967 views)
Well... [In reply to] Can't Post

...they have their sites, and I have mine, so we don't bug each other about it.


Mar 7 2007, 11:50pm

Post #13 of 34 (1012 views)
I'm one of the lucky ones. [In reply to] Can't Post

My husband isn't big on LOTR, but he is a Trekkie so he understands. My kids fully support me and often read over my shoulder. Only one of my brothers is as big on LOTR as I am, but the other 2 have their own obsessions. In the end, we all support each other.

Forum Admin / Moderator

Mar 8 2007, 2:19am

Post #14 of 34 (1011 views)
Axe murderers? [In reply to] Can't Post

Why, whatever would give her that idea...Bwahaha!

("Alter-Ego" by Anjylle - yep, my other daughter! Some days I feel like this...)

Grey Havens

Mar 8 2007, 3:21am

Post #15 of 34 (994 views)
My brother offered to do background checks [In reply to] Can't Post

When I first started going "walkabout" to meet Ringers off the net.

Superuser / Moderator

Mar 8 2007, 6:10am

Post #16 of 34 (1005 views)
What a great poll! [In reply to] Can't Post

My dear hubby is fairly supportive of the time I spend here. Wink (and vice versa).

As for the rest of my family, I think the turning point between stark horror and (remarkably) total acceptance was when I started bringing pictures back of 'real' people standing on stage holding 'real' Oscars; pictures of myself and 'real' scholars at 'real' conventions and 'real' people celebrating the union of two people who met online, and whom I wouldn't even have known myself if it weren't for TORn.

The subject is a bit more difficult to breach in professional settings, but I'm as honest as I can be without making their eyes glaze over either from unfamiliarity with the internet or unfamiliarity with LOTR.

Thanks for the great poll, Alassea! Smile


Mar 8 2007, 9:41am

Post #17 of 34 (960 views)
Well, if they come around here they might die of boredom./ [In reply to] Can't Post


AlassŽa Eruvande

Mar 8 2007, 4:41pm

Post #18 of 34 (960 views)
Well, he'd *better* be supportive! [In reply to] Can't Post

Otherwise, he might not even be here! Laugh


Mar 8 2007, 8:32pm

Post #19 of 34 (947 views)
Ack! [In reply to] Can't Post

I should have said sword-wielders!

She is gooood. I miss the work that was on the laptop!

Forum Admin / Moderator

Mar 9 2007, 11:18am

Post #20 of 34 (1003 views)
I said that in the passport control [In reply to] Can't Post

in Amsterdam before going to the US. Not quite sure if "I'm meeting people that I've met online" is what they want to hear. Then they demanded to see phone numbers and adresses. I ended up showing him the once I had from UK people since I had written the US ones down with TORN nicknames. They didn't notice the difference anyway.


Mar 9 2007, 10:42pm

Post #21 of 34 (948 views)
Re: [In reply to] Can't Post

Family- I've caught my dad telling *his* friends how cool the TORn folks are. =)

Friends- It's just a subject I try to avoid, with the exception of a couple of my friends, but for the most part, I don't say anything.


Mar 10 2007, 8:02pm

Post #22 of 34 (942 views)
If there was a LOTR detox program that is where [In reply to] Can't Post

they would send me. Since I joined the board a few weeks ago I have been on the computer far more than normal since I am exploring the site and trying to get to know some people and am being driven by the fact this is the first time in 5 years that I can actually relate to others who share my passion.

Sr. Staff

Mar 10 2007, 11:48pm

Post #23 of 34 (954 views)
much eye rolling from my family... [In reply to] Can't Post

Most of my friends (apart from my TORnsibs friends, obviously!) tolerate my obsession and are vaguely amused by it. My family are OK with it but think it's a bit crazy. I think my Mum has probably worried a bit about me going off to meet folks I don't know, but hey, L.Ron and I went to NZ together and they were OK with that! My Mum's bigger concern is that anyone I meet who ISN'T from TORn will take an instant dislike to me for my wackiness; or worse still, that they'll like me but then run screaming into the night when they see all the standees in my apartment. But I say, love me, love my obsession! And maybe one day I'll find a man who does.. Wink

Oh, I think my Mum also worries that I spend way too much money on LotR - but given that I'm *quite* good at snaggy freebies I can pretend that I've spent less than I actually have... Just as well my parents will never know the real sum I've spent on merchandise... Actually, I wouldn't want to know either!! Crazy

Superuser / Moderator

Mar 12 2007, 2:36am

Post #24 of 34 (975 views)
I found that the quickest way to bring silence [In reply to] Can't Post

at a gathering of friends was to mention LOTR or the (at that time) upcoming movies. I just don't mention LOTR around them anymore.

Family know that I'm a LOTR fan but they're not interested in details, so they don't know about TORN or Wellingmoot - although they did know that I went to LA for the third Oscar party. For them it's an interest that is neither here nor there.

Tol Eressea

Mar 12 2007, 5:58pm

Post #25 of 34 (1010 views)
I'm tolerated [In reply to] Can't Post

but seldom encouraged, by my family. My daughter is the only one who will go out of her way to let me know something she thinks I'd be interested in. She has picked up a few things for me at yard sales, for example. And always gets me an LOTR calendar at Christmas. My sister understands the message board part, sort of, because she belongs to some as well. Fortunately, I know several people who are just as interested as I am, so that helps!

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