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sador
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Apr 2 2014, 6:23am
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One for the Ladies - which is the very worst?
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The story runs thus:
Last week was my wife's birthday. To celebrate the event, I went to the dentist the day before. 
So she suggested that I pass through a men's clothes store nearby, and get myself something for the coming spring. Which I duly did.
When I came home, I was welcomed with a big smile - which turned into disappointment. It turned out that the store gave me a plastic bag on which was written "Ladies", and she thought I had surprised her.
The point is, she had specifically told me not to buy her clothes - which I know better than to try, anyway. And she did get something else. But still...
So as a bemused YCB (Y-chromosome bearer), I'm asking you YCFs (Y-chromosome free), which would be the worst possible present?
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zarabia
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Apr 2 2014, 6:46am
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Clothes are usually a kind of a no win situation. For me, too large ( for the reason you gave) or too small (because it might be a hint, and also it just makes me depressed, and that never works out well for the gift giver  )are both pretty bad. But what has bothered me most in the past is when a long-time boyfriend gave me something too...shall we say, sexy I'm just not that kind of girl and it made me feel like he didn't appreciate me for who I am.
As for forgetting a birthday, my late step-dad always forgot my mom's b'day, but because he was so giving all the rest of the time, it didn't matter.
Good for you for trying to figure it out.
(This post was edited by zarabia on Apr 2 2014, 6:49am)
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dik-dik
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Apr 2 2014, 9:17am
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wow, until I saw the results I thought it was going to be no contest!
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Forgetting a person's birthday is pretty bad, but gifts that show a total lack of interest in what the other person likes comes up close. I know of several guys who give their girlfriends what *they themselves* like, regardless of whether the woman feels the same way and repeatedly tells them what she'd like to get. That would be a big no-no for me, because it tells me how much the other person values my wishes and wants to make me happy (not!).
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wonderinglinguist
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Apr 2 2014, 12:10pm
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Even if it's not a great gift, at least he remembered you and tried to do something nice. If his heart is in the right place, as cliche as it is, it really is the thought that counts! I've gotten some so-so gifts from my husband, but knowing how much thought he put into them and seeing in his eyes how much he just wants me to be happy --that's the real gift, and I love him so much for it...bad gift or good 
On a more practical note: unless you know the exact article of clothing (and size) that she wants, I would skip trying to get clothes as a gift. It's just too tricky and easy (even likely) to get something that doesn't fit or isn't a style she cares for. 
(This post was edited by wonderinglinguist on Apr 2 2014, 12:12pm)
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Elizabeth
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Apr 2 2014, 6:57pm
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Most of them can be returned for something that fits or you like better.
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phij2
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Apr 2 2014, 8:02pm
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Forgetting completely is pretty bad...
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especially if you have been married/together for a long time
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Riven Delve
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Apr 3 2014, 3:41pm
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At least you remembered her birthday--forgetting would definitely be the worst in my book!
I think she was probably just excited at the idea of your doing something totally unexpected by buying her clothes--perhaps it was the surprise factor that she was so happy about. That's a pretty big high to come down from. 
However, you don't need an "occasion" to surprise her with an unexpected gift! (Hint, hint!)
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Aunt Dora Baggins
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Apr 3 2014, 8:56pm
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After 38 years together, we each buy our own presents.
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We've found it works better that way :-D We always say "See what you got me for my birthday?"
The worst one was probably getting bras. Clothes of any kind would be a downer, but bras? Really? That was decades ago. As the saying goes, "Toys, not ties."
Books are probably the best presents :-)
For Valentine's Day and our anniversary, we don't do presents. We make each other homemade cards, which are usually hilarious and slightly naughty, and go out to eat.
(This post was edited by Aunt Dora Baggins on Apr 3 2014, 8:58pm)
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Brethil
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Apr 3 2014, 8:58pm
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Forgetting is the worst option!
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But I sympathize deeply with you: one of those moments one wishes to be a magician, and be able to pull something out of that 'ladies' bag and pull off the surprise!
(This post was edited by Brethil on Apr 3 2014, 8:58pm)
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Kilidoescartwheels
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Apr 4 2014, 4:22pm
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Well it didn't happen to me, but
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the worst gift I ever heard of was a hubby who bought his wife a weighing scale, because she was always weighing herself but complained that their bathroom scale wasn't accurate. File that under "be careful what you ask for!"
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grammaboodawg
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Apr 6 2014, 1:50pm
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The worse birthday was when he confused "someone elses" b'day with mine ;)
He's lucky we're still great friends after 32 years of divorce! We're all a work in progress....
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Ataahua
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Apr 6 2014, 6:59pm
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I don't know about you gramma, but my reaction would have been long and loud enough to be heard a few streets away.
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