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Query for the holidays: Re-gift? Yes or No?
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Poll: Query for the holidays: Re-gift? Yes or No?
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wendy woo
Rivendell


Dec 8 2012, 6:10am

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Query for the holidays: Re-gift? Yes or No? Can't Post

Do you view re-gifting as frugality or callous re-appropriation? And are you now or have you ever been a re-giftor and/or re-gifted?


zarabia
Tol Eressea


Dec 8 2012, 7:15am

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Nope [In reply to] Can't Post

I'm no Dr. Tim Whatley Wink For one thing, I figure if someone takes the time and trouble to get me something, I should keep it. And even if I feel that I'm the recipient of a re-gifting, I wouldn't re-gift for fear that it would come back to bite me...just like Tim Whatley. Laugh (I'm a bigger Seinfeld geek than I am a Tolkien geek Tongue)


DanielLB
Immortal


Dec 8 2012, 8:07am

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No, I don't. [In reply to] Can't Post

Usually people also attach a gift receipt, so if it really is that awful, I can exchange it for something else without felling guilty.

Why? Are you plannin on re-gifting?Tongue


CuriousG
Valinor


Dec 8 2012, 8:27am

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Depending on the situation [In reply to] Can't Post

If my close family or friends give me something, I'd feel obligated to keep it. Anything I get at the office, or from people that I don't know that well, that isn't suited to me, I'm happy to pass on as a gift to someone else who'd appreciate it. I don't do it to save money, but to avoid wasting a gift that I would either throw away or forever leave in its box.


Alcarcalime
Tol Eressea


Dec 8 2012, 10:21am

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I look on it as recycling. [In reply to] Can't Post

I have received gifts that someone else would enjoy more than I would, so I gave it to someone who could appreciate it and I have received the same sort of thing.


Magpie
Immortal


Dec 8 2012, 2:55pm

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Yes, kind of [In reply to] Can't Post

That is, I don't so much regift (which I rarely do) as be very willing to gift used items. I am a thrift store junkie and I am always picking up things that I use as gifts for people. I don't try to pretend they're new. I just offer them as, here's this thing I found at a really good price I think you'll like.

Like a leather shoulder messenger type bag. Or CDs or DVDs or Books. In fact, I'd consider anyone who gave me a full price book they could get for half price at Uncle Hugo's Science Fiction Bookstore to have wasted half their money. One year, the 'stocking stuffers' for my kids were big bags labeled, 'from the island of misfit toys' and they were full of used toys (mostly fast food type toys) from the thrift store.

My family all enjoys the thrifting experience - the boys when they were growing up, not so much now as adults. Model train sets, Garfield or Ninja Turtle items, batteries intended for cell phones repurposed for ant weight fighting robots. I had one son who would grab the neighbors' electronics put out in the alley for trash pick up and fix them till they were fine - or repurpose a large screen tv that didn't work for tv anymore but did work for gaming.

So, they don't see this sort of stuff as inferior. They see it as good bargains and sometimes, good luck... when one finds something that is no longer available. It's essentially the same as buying off e-Bay except with thrift store shopping, one takes what one finds. One does not enter a search term and find a seller for that one product.

I wouldn't have a problem at all receiving a repurposed or used item as a gift.


Magpie
Immortal


Dec 8 2012, 3:04pm

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Would you keep this if it were sent to you? [In reply to] Can't Post

http://www.shopgoodwill.com/...Holder-11469503.html

I got one. From my mother. It was not quite my style. I did keep it - out of guilt - in the basement till it got banged up enough I could call it 'damaged' and threw it away.

I could have donated it to a charitable gift store and let someone who loved it have it.

Or what about all the highly Christian religious items my sister gave me when she knew my faith wasn't Christian. Use them? Put them in a drawer? Or donate them to a charitable gift store and let someone who would appreciate them have them?

If you keep things you don't like or can't use to be nice about it, you have a bigger house than I do. I don't have room for stuff I don't love or enjoy or have a strong connection to (like my son's old Pez collection I can't quite throw out yet).

But most of the stuff I get is something I like or love. I don't go 'shopping' on my shelves for a gift. An item comes to me and I either keep it or look for a home that will love it. And some of what I pass along isn't because I don't love it. Sometimes I have many items of things I love and share them freely with other people who will love them, too. Like a pack of TOPPs LOTR cards. :-) I have a massive amount passed to me from a Tolkien collector and I share the joy when I can.


(This post was edited by Magpie on Dec 8 2012, 3:05pm)


Magpie
Immortal


Dec 8 2012, 3:06pm

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yes // [In reply to] Can't Post

 


Alassëa Eruvande
Valinor


Dec 8 2012, 3:15pm

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"from the Island of Misfit Toys" [In reply to] Can't Post

Magpie, that is brilliant! We may have to do that in the Eruvande household. My kids always feel sorry for the misfit toys when we watch that show. But what a great way to "repurpose" otherwise throw aways. I love it!


Magpie
Immortal


Dec 8 2012, 4:08pm

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the problem with that idea is... [In reply to] Can't Post

at least at the thrift store I shop at, they no longer carry fast food toys. They only carry dolls, stuffed toys, hot wheels, and a smattering of other things.

So you'd have to find a source of inexpensive toys (not ones being sold to 'collectors') for the kids. But yeah, putting the 'misfit' label on them meant they could be a bit battered and maybe missing a piece or two and still be considered 'okay'.

Without those of us buying misfit toys, they would all be going into landfills and incinerators. I suppose they do eventually when they get just too battered to pass on. But all the toys I bought second hand were ones I didn't buy new. Not good for the economy, perhaps. But better for the environment?


zarabia
Tol Eressea


Dec 9 2012, 3:04am

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Oh dear, I knew I should have been clearer in my post - didn't mean to offend [In reply to] Can't Post

I certainly didn't mean to imply that anyone who re-gifts lacks gratitude or any such thing. I've passed along gifts I've received to someone who would get more out of them. However, I don't present them as something I went out and picked out especially for that person, which is what I think of as "re-gifting." But if someone gives me something that they seem to actually take pleasure in giving to me, yes, I keep it. I had a friend give me a clown doll because she said that I always made her laugh, she seemed genuinely happy about her choice of gift. I loved the reasoning behind her gift, but I have clown issues - I know it's stupid, but they've always given me the creeps - and I'm not too keen on dolls either, so the clown doll almost made me scream with fright Blush But I keep it because of the thought behind it.

I don't have a large social circle so I don't get that many gifts anyway. (So I don't have to worry about filling up my house.) If a co-worker who didn't know me well and gave me a generic gift to be nice, I might well re-gift and not feel at all guilty, but it's just not something that comes up.


Magpie
Immortal


Dec 9 2012, 5:38am

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no, I wasn't offended. [In reply to] Can't Post

It really is just that I've gotten some gifts that just made no sense for me to keep. Good intentions or not. And I still wonder if you would really keep a 4 foot sea shell chandelier type plant holder!

But I donate those sorts of things. I don't regift them.


zarabia
Tol Eressea


Dec 9 2012, 8:08am

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I must admit [In reply to] Can't Post

That four foot sea shell plant holder - as Tim Gunn of Project Runway says when confronted with an over-the-top design - "is a lotta look." Laugh It probably is best to find it a home with someone who has a beach house. Smile


Annael
Half-elven


Dec 9 2012, 7:32pm

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I have done it a couple of times [In reply to] Can't Post

but not with gifts from family or close friends. For example, a reclusive neighbor whom I invited to a ladies' tea party brought along a gift that was fairly ridiculous; I strongly suspect she re-gifted it to me herself, and I had no compunction about wrapping it up for the annual White Elephant party my church holds.


Magpie
Immortal


Dec 9 2012, 7:41pm

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ah, White Elephant parties are great [In reply to] Can't Post

I got the Minas Tirith polyfigure that came with the ROTK DVDs at one. I passed along a cast iron waffle maker to a friend who still uses it in her yearly Valentine's Day waffle breakfast party. One year I got a CD of Baltimore Consort doing bawdy songs from the 1700s. And every year someone would bring an actual white elephant (figure). I have one of them made from stone.

There were, of course, the totally useless and ridiculous items we all tried hard to convince people *they* really wanted.


Silverlode
Forum Admin / Moderator


Dec 10 2012, 12:13am

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My family had a perpetual re-gift [In reply to] Can't Post

a chia Shrek, which made the rounds of several Christmases and birthdays. It hasn't resurfaced for a few events now, I'm not sure what became of it. Laugh


Annael
Half-elven


Dec 10 2012, 4:57am

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oh, that happened at my dad's office annual party [In reply to] Can't Post

there was a lava lamp that used to be in the office, but after many years the stuff inside solidified and looked, er, like a waste product. So one of the doctors wrapped it up and put it in the white elephant exchange, and every coupla years after that it came back. Wrapping it so someone wouldn't guess what it was became quite the endeavor after a while.


(This post was edited by Annael on Dec 10 2012, 4:59am)


Magpie
Immortal


Dec 10 2012, 5:22am

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in a only slightly related way... [In reply to] Can't Post

I wanted to disguise the gift I was giving my son because he had suggested only a few things and if I wrapped the one I got him - a tabletop game - he would know from the size and shape exactly what it was. So I bought another game with a very different size at a thrift store - Twilight, the board game.

Then I put a note in the game saying, "What? This isn't the one you wanted?" When he opened it, I went up to get the real game.

Well, he snuck the Twilight game into the annual after Christmas gaming party his social group has and wouldn't let on that he had brought it when people went all bananas that it had shown up (These guys are serious gamers). Apparently the host tried for a year to get someone to fess up to bringing it so they could take it home. My son is as straight faced as it comes when pulling a prank. I don't think he ever came clean.


Ataahua
Superuser / Moderator


Dec 10 2012, 6:43am

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At our office Secret Santa gift-giving [In reply to] Can't Post

we know that one of the wrapped gifts will be a framed photo of a dog that belongs to one of our colleagues. That is definitely the booby prize that we all try to avoid.


Aunt Dora Baggins
Half-elven


Dec 10 2012, 7:26pm

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Yes! [In reply to] Can't Post

In our family we call it "Shopping in the basement store." We do it all the time. If it's not something we're sure the other person wants, we say, "This is an it." Which is code for "This isn't your real present and you don't have to like it. It was lying around and I thought there was a chance you'd like it more than I do."


Aunt Dora Baggins
Half-elven


Dec 10 2012, 7:28pm

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That reminds me of a set of red vinyl shower curtains [In reply to] Can't Post

that made the rounds of white elephant parties for years when I was in college.


diedye
Grey Havens


Dec 10 2012, 9:25pm

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Only if it was of great beauty or value... [In reply to] Can't Post

... and passed on years after it was given.

But I'm totally against re-gifting if your reason is pure laziness.


Kelvarhin
Half-elven


Dec 11 2012, 1:33am

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I said "Maybe" [In reply to] Can't Post

as I've often donated my boys unwanted/unused toys to the Salvation Army. But only if they're in good condition. I'm not sure if that's the same thing you're asking.

I've passed on valuable gifts within the family, and received the same, that mean things to our family and are never to go out of our family. But once again, not sure if that's what you mean. *shrugs*


wendy woo
Rivendell


Dec 11 2012, 3:48am

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Hey, I think I own that CD by Baltimore Consort! [In reply to] Can't Post

What a sucker! I paid full price for it! Frown


Eärwen of Mithlond
The Shire


Dec 19 2012, 7:15am

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Maybe: If you can pull it off as well as this... [In reply to] Can't Post

And this story shall be known as the Tale of the Brightly-colored Ceramic Chicken Spoon-rest.
The brightly-colored ceramic chicken spoon-rest was something my paternal grandmother once gave to my mother (her daughter-in-law) for Christmas. It was not the kind of thing I can imagine in anyone's kitchen except my grandmother's. Noticing this, my mother, in an uncharacteristic risk-taking mood, decided to give it back to her the next Christmas.
It worked. My grandmother never remembered having seen it before, and found it quite lovely for her kitchen.
I doubt that anyone can top this re-gifting tale. If you can, I'll be interested to hear it.

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