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Magpie
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May 28 2013, 4:02pm


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I feel some need to say...

...that I have learned some of these points from people I highly admire. And I highly admire them, in part, because they do things well that I don't always do so well. And I am always a work in progress.

I am better at helping people feel comfortable than confronting those I think aren't behaving well. :-)

I spent years trying to make children who didn't feel successful believe in themselves. And more years helping adults get comfortable trying a new thing (folkdancing) and asking their body to move - in public! - in ways they weren't used to moving.

I am a thinker and I have thought (and still do) very hard about how to be successful in those endeavors. And being a thinker, I tend to want to tell people what I think. But at some point, I realized that new people trying to get comfortable in a new place with a new skill often feel overwhelmed and when they start to feel overwhelmed, the more I talked... the more overwhelmed they got. Even saying, "don't feel overwhelmed" wasn't helping much.

When I saw that bit of panic in a new dancer's eye's I found the best way to support them was just to smile and keep dancing. I was having a good time. I was having a good time with them. I was convinced they would have a good time. It worked way, way, way more often and better - in the moment - than any words I could offer them.

We are here to talk. To converse. To discuss and even debate (in the best use of that term). But I don't think we have to consciously talk to people about how to feel comfortable. We just have to smile and show them we are comfortable. We like having them here. And we think they're going like it here.


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